March winds have blown in the latest Bristol House newsletter! The March Newsletter brings you the latest news, coming events and important information from Bristol House Memory Care. Take a few minutes right now and catch up on what's new. You can read it here: https://www.illustratus.com/viewer/viewer.cfm?ng=D4E2854C-A972-A097-C4F1-76520715183B&rk=em.
Being a caregiver can be stressful — and that can be an understatement. Along with the strain on time and energy, caregivers can feel guilty about many things, one of which is feeling guilty about feeling guilty. Most hard and difficult feelings toward the one you are caring for can be mitigated by love and the sense of duty you have toward that needy person. However, your concern for that person — not to mention family members who may need to share their time with you — may leave you feeling like you are doing something wrong. You may even feel guilty about things that haven’t happened yet, and may never happen. Things can get so out-of-hand that one might serve out of guilt instead of love if negative feelings take over. Here’s a burst of good news: Feelings of guilt are normal!
As a caregiver for an Alzheimer’s or dementia patient, you are learning to live, essentially, in another world. Your loved one doesn’t think or respond the way you expect, and that can be frustrating. If anything, a caregiver needs to learn to be flexible, which is not as scary as it sounds. In fact, this spontaneity can refresh your life and lead to some wonderful — although brief — times of bonding.
Dementia patients often drift in and out of reality — our reality, that is. If you are alert and willing to drop your defenses, you can provide your loved one with moments of joy that will, in turn, teach you to savor every moment and make the most of life.